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Posted by on Apr 27, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Please Stop Whining! Here’s 6 Steps to Help.

Please Stop Whining! Here’s 6 Steps to Help.

All kids whine at one time or another, heck, adults do too. Adults you can walk away from, your kids you can’t, or can you? Try these tips with your kids and you may just limit the times you have to listen to the whine.

  1. SMILE when you talk. This goes for your kids & you. Do you know that when talking on the phone  or just listening to someone that you can’t see, you can always hear a smile. So smile when you talk and encourage your kids to too. The can’t whine when they say it with a smile.
  2. Do NOT Answer them, even walk away if necessary. Tell them that you are happy to hear what they have to say, but they have to tell you without whining. Using manners will make this much easier as well.
  3. MODEL this behavior. You need to also speak with a smile and use your manners. Your children will naturally follow your lead.
  4. EXPLAIN and demonstrate the difference between “whiny” talk and pleasant speech. Let them hear it for themselves and ask them which they like better.
  5. Use a SECRET CODE to remind them not to whine and invite them to use the same code if they catch you whining or speaking disrespectfully. After all, we are all human and we all make mistakes. Your kids will love that they can help you to be better at communication too. Examples of secret codes: tap your nose, wiggle your ear, choose a secret word that when spoken means, “you’re whining again”. A secret code can eliminate the repetition of always saying, “Stop whining.”
  6. Use FUNNY VOICES to break up the whine and get your kids to shine and laugh. They’ll use funny voices too.

Remember, whining is sometimes your child’s way of saying, “I need a little attention.” So if you haven’t done something special with your child recently, this could be a great time to break our a game, cards or a puzzle.

Let me know if these tips helped you and your children. Comment below and thank you for reading and sharing.

Peace, Love, Laughter to all!

Celia

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Posted by on Feb 22, 2017 in Blog | 0 comments

Think Before You Drink… The Real Dangers of Drinking Soda

Think Before You Drink… The Real Dangers of Drinking Soda

Are your kids Sodaholics? Is every meal accompanied with soda of some kind. THINK BEFORE YOU DRINK… or your children drink! Do you really know the dangers of drinking soda? What is it doing to your body. Sure, we all know about the sugar, but what else can be so bad? After all, it keeps them from complaining, right?

Wrong! As much as I hate to be the bearer of bad news, there is pretty much nothing good about drinking soda. Nothing!

Here’s some help, and might I suggest that you also discuss this with your kids to help them understand the dangers. YUP, there’s SUGAR and plenty of it! Do you really want them to digest a cup of sugar? Oh, it’s diet soda? Do you really want them to digest a cup of artificial sweetener? Here’s what too much SODA can lead to…

  1. DIABETES! You get to have Shots, injections, lots of them, Insulin, blindness, loss of limbs… there isn’t anything good about having diabetes and sadly it is showing up more and more in our kids. To me, this is true child abuse.
  2. OBESITY! Excessive fat, rolls and rolls, fat jokes, blob lifestyles, bullying, depression, illness, overworked hearts, low self esteem, low self worth, lack of confidence, seclusion, illness… clearly I could go on and on with this one. Is this what you hope your kids will grow to be one day?
  3. DIGESTION PROBLEMS! Caffiene and Soda are diuretics, this can lead to dehydration. Did you know that children become dehydrated much faster than adults. Do they really need help with this from a soda?
  4. ADDICTION! Caffeine, sugar, soda… you can become addicted and so can your kids. I bet some of you reading this are thinking, “I know what you mean, if I don’t have my Coke during the day, I am cranky and miserable.”
  5. TOOTH DECAY! Isn’t it already hard enough to get your kids to keep their teeth and gums clean and healthy? Do we really need to add the acids in soda to that problem? Soda also discolors teeth and the excessive sugar, along with the acids, helps to rot them. Let’s hear it for causing tooth decay, cavities and high dental bills. Whoo-Hoo!
  6. NO NUTRITIONAL VALUE! What??? There is no nutrition in a soda? Amazing. Not only is it empty calories, it can fill you up and cause you to eat less healthy food.
  7. SLEEP DEPRIVATION! Caffeine keeps you up, Sugar keeps you energized. Don’t you want your kids to be asleep? Need I say more?
  8. BEHAVIOR ISSUES! How often do parents with their kids would calm down. We are telling them all the time. So why would you give them a drink that completely jacks them up. They will also thank you for the soda with increased mood swings, crankiness, discipline problems… sounds awesome, doesn’t it.
  9. BONUS: CLEANS YOUR CAR BATTERY! That’s right, pour a can of soda on your car battery and your up and cruising in no time. For me, that’s the only thing soda is good for. Well, when you or your child drinks a soda, you’re ingesting all that wonderful acid that can clean rust. What’s it doing to you? MSG hides in soda and has been proven to cause long term neurological effects like Alzheimers, dementia, ALS and others. That’s a nice gift to give your kids. Oh, did I mention what acid does to your bones? You want your kids to grow taller, right? Adding a soda to their diet depletes Calcium and weakens their bones.

Sooooo…. let’s talk ALTERNATIVES!.. and don’t forget to let the kids help you make these drinks. They love it!

SPRITZERS: Fun to make, fun to drink and refreshing. Fill your glass with 1/3 of 100% juice of your choice and fill the rest of your glass with Sparkling Water. Add some fresh fruit on a toothpick to make it fancy and delicious.

NEW YORK EGG CREAM: In a tall glass, fill 1/3 of the glass with very chocolaty chocolate milk and add Seltzer to the rest of the glass. Seriously, the best! (check out my Periscope page… I did a Periscope on making an egg cream last year)

SMOOTHIE... Use Almond Milk or regular milk or whatever milk you like and add away… bananas, berries, oranges, carrots, greens, yogurt, honey, even add a tsp. of Apple Cider Vinegar to keep you healthy… blend it and drink it up. Hint: Use frozen fruit instead of ice cubes to add even more servings of fruit.

And of course almost any other drinks you have in the house like Milk, Orange Juice, Cranberry Juice or my personal favorite WATER!

Just think of all the other things your kids can drink instead of a soda and help them get in the habit of drinking water. You’ll love it, they’ll love it and life with be great!

 

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents! Feel free to share this with anyone who has kids or just might enjoy the read.

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Posted by on Nov 22, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Are You Expecting Your Kids to be Wise Beyond Their Years?

Are You Expecting Your Kids to be Wise Beyond Their Years?

Get to know the stages your child will go through as they grow.

Get to know the stages your child will go through as they grow. This includes a child with Down Syndrome compared to the typical range of kids.

Do you think your kids should know more or do more than the age that they are? Do you think they should be wise beyond their years?

I have been teaching kids and their parents for over 30 years and I have seen all kinds of parents, from ones that understand what abilities children have at their age, to those that think they are adults at the ripe age of 2. Know anyone like this? Are you like this?

I met a women today who was amazed that her son did not jump right into an activity at the age of 18 months. This little boy has not been on this earth on his own for even 2 years. How is he automatically supposed to feel secure in a new, foreign situation that he has never had any experience with?

We as adults, very often get impatient with our young children because they simply are not doing what you think they should be doing. Sound familiar? You however, really need to stop and think of who your dealing with. Does your child even have any idea of what you are asking of them?

I’ll give you an example. Sitting at a family-friendly restaurant, my Grandson (who was 1.5 years old) was being silly and wiggling and making a bit of kid noise. My son looked at him and said, “This is why we don’t go to restaurants, because you don’t know how to behave.” I had to laugh and say, he doesn’t just know how to behave in restaurants, he doesn’t know how to behave… period. He is 1.5 years old and for that matter, he doesn’t know what a restaurant is, either.

Your job as a parent is to teach, guide, mentor and set an example for your children to learn from. This is what will give them the tools they need to grow. If you’re not sure, educate yourself and learn what their abilities are.

A child’s brain, is always developing through their toddler years. They are not just born with instant brain power. They need to learn logic and grow the left part of their brain. Their brain is filled with emotion and that is how they react to most situations because that is what they are capable of. They need to have language development and conversation to enhance their brain growth. They need to be taught and have explanations of various behavior patterns and social experience. Work with them, teach them and excite them as they live their first experiences each and every day.

Doing this will certainly make you wise beyond your years and will create a child full of wisdom, common sense and left feeling accomplished and confident.

 

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents! Feel free to share this with anyone who has kids or just might enjoy the read.

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Catch my Parenting show live on Periscope, as we discuss topics of concern and great ideas for all parents and caregivers. Is there a topic you’d like me to address, just send me an email or comment below. Join us on Facebook in our Group THE PARENT MASTER.

 

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Posted by on Oct 1, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

How is the Food You Feed Your Kids Affecting Your Kids?

How is the Food You Feed Your Kids Affecting Your Kids?

We all know that we should be eating healthy foods each day. But you’re in a hurry, you gotta go, the kids are not listening and you’re just going to grab the first thing you can to get something in their bellies. You’re ready to scream! You’re not alone, but…

Consider this… if what you have to grab is chips, cookies, soda, donuts and candy… is that really going to help you or are you just filling your kids up with empty calories, too much sugar and foods that will cause them stomach discomfort and make them moody. When you have a lot of sugary snacks in the house for kids and you to grab or eat between meals, then you are getting in the habit of not grabbing healthier alternatives.

Sugar, fats and fast food options will cause discomfort, energy crashes and generally make kids hard to deal with. They get wound up, they can lose focus, they tend not to listen and they can have a lot of mood swings. Is this really what you want or is this more of what you’re trying to avoid?

Let’s think for a minute. You’re are losing your mind, pulling your hair out and trying to get your kids to listen. You say, “OK, if you get your work done, I will give you a candy when you’re finished.” Is this really a reward? Is this going to make you or them calm down? Is this contributing to their habit of a reward is food and a lot of times, sugar?

Rewards for kids can be anything, but preferably not a sugary treat which will only aggravate the situation by making them become more out of control. How about, change that reward of candy, to… we will all play a game together when you get your work done… OR… we will go to the park as soon as you’re finished.

kidscookIn your house, start making snack time, real food time. Have cut up carrots and celery in the fridge for an easy grab. Add some hummus or salsa, kids love to dip. Have a bowl of oranges, bananas and other fruit out on the counter to eat at anytime or when you’re running out the door. Plan meals WITH your kids. Take them shopping and teach them about healthy eating and understanding food labels. Then, let them help you make the food. Kids love to eat what they create.

Other important tips…

Eat together as a family at the table, NOT in front of the TV. Conversation allows for a natural control of the amount of food you eat and adds to bonding between parents and kids.

Schedule your child’s day from morning to night. Make sure you allow enough time in the morning for a good breakfast, not a lot of fast sugar.

Add Color to your meals, it adds nutrition!

There are so many ways to get kids to eat healthier and calm down their behavior and allow for more focus and concentration when needed. You’ll feel better too.

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents! Feel free to share this with anyone who has kids or just might enjoy the read.

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Catch my Parenting show live on Periscope Monday thru Friday, as we discuss topics of concern and great ideas for all parents and caregivers. Is there a topic you’d like me to address, just send me an email or comment below. Join us on Facebook in our Group THE PARENT MASTER.

 

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Posted by on Aug 16, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

Are You Making Your Kid a Spoiled Brat?

Are You Making Your Kid a Spoiled Brat?

Remember this incredibly enjoyable child from Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory? Does this child remind you of any one you know?

Remember this incredibly enjoyable child from Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory? Does this child remind you of any one you know?

Are you making your kid a spoiled brat by being a well-meaning parent? It’s ok. Many parents that think they are helping, but in reality, they are not. Sometimes your kids have to learn for themselves.

Here’s some helpful advice.

  1. Admit Mistakes and Teach them to admit Mistakes. The best thing you can do with a mistake is learn from it. Don’t cover it up, don’t act like it didn’t happen, take the opportunity to learn, find new ways and grow.
  2. Every minute does not have to be a Happy Minute. Life is full of ups and downs. If kids don’t learn that now, they will never learn to deal with life’s roller coaster as they grow.
  3. Don’t do their jobs for them. They need to learn to pick up after themselves. They need to do their own homework and projects. A good work ethic is created from appreciating the hard work you’re doing. Let them appreciate their own work.
  4. Don’t fall for the Drama. Life happens. Drama happens and it’s mostly to get your attention and your reaction. Don’t give it to them. The more you give into the drama, the less chance you have of them ever changing their ways. Ignore them and they will learn that they are not getting anywhere with the tears and attitude.
  5. You Can’t Always Get What You Want. Kids can’t either. Giving in to their every wish, makes them grateful and appreciative of nothing. Have 3 lists… a WISH list, a SAVE-FOR-IT List and a GIFT List. Wish lists are good for something you know they would like to have and maybe you surprise them after  job well done with it or  another surprise reason. The SAVE list, is something that they really want, maybe a costly item and they learn, to work, earn and save. The GIFT list goes out to others for birthdays, holidays,etc.
  6. Not everything needs to be a discussion. Parenting is not always a Democracy, sometimes it’s a dictatorship and sometimes you make the decision and stick to it. If you decide on a punishment, stick to it, don’t alter it to fit their needs. Don’t threaten and never follow through. Meal Time is not “Mom the Short Order Cook” time. Make a meal that everyone eats. Don’t give in to their begging or fussiness. You will help your kids to not be such picky eaters and appreciate what’s offered to them.
  7. Sometimes other commitments keep you from a recital or sports event. That’s OK! Don’t feel guilty. Kids need to know that although they are a priority, there are other priorities in your life as well that may not be avoided. Kids learn that they are not the center of the universe, but a spoke in the wheel that makes the family complete and turning smoothly.
  8. Both Parents Are on The Same Page. Do not let your child play you. Do not let them get an answer from one parent that they are unhappy with and go to the other parent for a different outcome. Both parents need to agree or your kids will have no reason to listen to anything either of you say.
  9. Insist on Manners & Smile. You should be using them and insist that your kids use them. There is no better way to raise respectful children, then to raise well mannered children that live in a respectful house. Do not let your kids yell at you, hit you or speak with disrespect. If children are allowed to behave that way to their parents, they will act that way with everyone they encounter. Smile when you speak and encourage your kids to smile when they speak as well.
  10. Take time with your kids for fun! Enjoy each other, play, laugh, talk, joke and make family time an enjoyable time. Take a break from the electronics and spend some time walking, conversing and looking each other in the eye instead of down at phones. Emotion can only be seen and heard in order to be felt. Keep it real.

Boundaries, responsibilities, respect and learning from the ups and downs of life, will create children that grow into well rounded, intelligent, respectful, hard working adults. Enjoy your kids, show them you love them and they will show the world how great they can be.

 

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents! Feel free to share this with anyone who has kids or just might enjoy the read.

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Email: celia@celiakibler.com

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Catch my Parenting 101 show live on Periscope Monday thru Friday, as we discuss topics of concern and great ideas for all parents and caregivers. Is there a topic you’d like me to address, just send me an email or comment below.

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