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Are You Expecting Your Kids to be Wise Beyond Their Years?

Posted by on Nov 22, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

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Get to know the stages your child will go through as they grow.

Get to know the stages your child will go through as they grow. This includes a child with Down Syndrome compared to the typical range of kids.

Do you think your kids should know more or do more than the age that they are? Do you think they should be wise beyond their years?

I have been teaching kids and their parents for over 30 years and I have seen all kinds of parents, from ones that understand what abilities children have at their age, to those that think they are adults at the ripe age of 2. Know anyone like this? Are you like this?

I met a women today who was amazed that her son did not jump right into an activity at the age of 18 months. This little boy has not been on this earth on his own for even 2 years. How is he automatically supposed to feel secure in a new, foreign situation that he has never had any experience with?

We as adults, very often get impatient with our young children because they simply are not doing what you think they should be doing. Sound familiar? You however, really need to stop and think of who your dealing with. Does your child even have any idea of what you are asking of them?

I’ll give you an example. Sitting at a family-friendly restaurant, my Grandson (who was 1.5 years old) was being silly and wiggling and making a bit of kid noise. My son looked at him and said, “This is why we don’t go to restaurants, because you don’t know how to behave.” I had to laugh and say, he doesn’t just know how to behave in restaurants, he doesn’t know how to behave… period. He is 1.5 years old and for that matter, he doesn’t know what a restaurant is, either.

Your job as a parent is to teach, guide, mentor and set an example for your children to learn from. This is what will give them the tools they need to grow. If you’re not sure, educate yourself and learn what their abilities are.

A child’s brain, is always developing through their toddler years. They are not just born with instant brain power. They need to learn logic and grow the left part of their brain. Their brain is filled with emotion and that is how they react to most situations because that is what they are capable of. They need to have language development and conversation to enhance their brain growth. They need to be taught and have explanations of various behavior patterns and social experience. Work with them, teach them and excite them as they live their first experiences each and every day.

Doing this will certainly make you wise beyond your years and will create a child full of wisdom, common sense and left feeling accomplished and confident.

 

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Peace, Love & Laughter!

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How is the Food You Feed Your Kids Affecting Your Kids?

Posted by on Oct 1, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

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We all know that we should be eating healthy foods each day. But you’re in a hurry, you gotta go, the kids are not listening and you’re just going to grab the first thing you can to get something in their bellies. You’re ready to scream! You’re not alone, but…

Consider this… if what you have to grab is chips, cookies, soda, donuts and candy… is that really going to help you or are you just filling your kids up with empty calories, too much sugar and foods that will cause them stomach discomfort and make them moody. When you have a lot of sugary snacks in the house for kids and you to grab or eat between meals, then you are getting in the habit of not grabbing healthier alternatives.

Sugar, fats and fast food options will cause discomfort, energy crashes and generally make kids hard to deal with. They get wound up, they can lose focus, they tend not to listen and they can have a lot of mood swings. Is this really what you want or is this more of what you’re trying to avoid?

Let’s think for a minute. You’re are losing your mind, pulling your hair out and trying to get your kids to listen. You say, “OK, if you get your work done, I will give you a candy when you’re finished.” Is this really a reward? Is this going to make you or them calm down? Is this contributing to their habit of a reward is food and a lot of times, sugar?

Rewards for kids can be anything, but preferably not a sugary treat which will only aggravate the situation by making them become more out of control. How about, change that reward of candy, to… we will all play a game together when you get your work done… OR… we will go to the park as soon as you’re finished.

kidscookIn your house, start making snack time, real food time. Have cut up carrots and celery in the fridge for an easy grab. Add some hummus or salsa, kids love to dip. Have a bowl of oranges, bananas and other fruit out on the counter to eat at anytime or when you’re running out the door. Plan meals WITH your kids. Take them shopping and teach them about healthy eating and understanding food labels. Then, let them help you make the food. Kids love to eat what they create.

Other important tips…

Eat together as a family at the table, NOT in front of the TV. Conversation allows for a natural control of the amount of food you eat and adds to bonding between parents and kids.

Schedule your child’s day from morning to night. Make sure you allow enough time in the morning for a good breakfast, not a lot of fast sugar.

Add Color to your meals, it adds nutrition!

There are so many ways to get kids to eat healthier and calm down their behavior and allow for more focus and concentration when needed. You’ll feel better too.

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents! Feel free to share this with anyone who has kids or just might enjoy the read.

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Let’s raise happy and healthy kids together!

Catch my Parenting show live on Periscope Monday thru Friday, as we discuss topics of concern and great ideas for all parents and caregivers. Is there a topic you’d like me to address, just send me an email or comment below. Join us on Facebook in our Group THE PARENT MASTER.

 

Are You Making Your Kid a Spoiled Brat?

Posted by on Aug 16, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

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Remember this incredibly enjoyable child from Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory? Does this child remind you of any one you know?

Remember this incredibly enjoyable child from Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory? Does this child remind you of any one you know?

Are you making your kid a spoiled brat by being a well-meaning parent? It’s ok. Many parents that think they are helping, but in reality, they are not. Sometimes your kids have to learn for themselves.

Here’s some helpful advice.

  1. Admit Mistakes and Teach them to admit Mistakes. The best thing you can do with a mistake is learn from it. Don’t cover it up, don’t act like it didn’t happen, take the opportunity to learn, find new ways and grow.
  2. Every minute does not have to be a Happy Minute. Life is full of ups and downs. If kids don’t learn that now, they will never learn to deal with life’s roller coaster as they grow.
  3. Don’t do their jobs for them. They need to learn to pick up after themselves. They need to do their own homework and projects. A good work ethic is created from appreciating the hard work you’re doing. Let them appreciate their own work.
  4. Don’t fall for the Drama. Life happens. Drama happens and it’s mostly to get your attention and your reaction. Don’t give it to them. The more you give into the drama, the less chance you have of them ever changing their ways. Ignore them and they will learn that they are not getting anywhere with the tears and attitude.
  5. You Can’t Always Get What You Want. Kids can’t either. Giving in to their every wish, makes them grateful and appreciative of nothing. Have 3 lists… a WISH list, a SAVE-FOR-IT List and a GIFT List. Wish lists are good for something you know they would like to have and maybe you surprise them after  job well done with it or  another surprise reason. The SAVE list, is something that they really want, maybe a costly item and they learn, to work, earn and save. The GIFT list goes out to others for birthdays, holidays,etc.
  6. Not everything needs to be a discussion. Parenting is not always a Democracy, sometimes it’s a dictatorship and sometimes you make the decision and stick to it. If you decide on a punishment, stick to it, don’t alter it to fit their needs. Don’t threaten and never follow through. Meal Time is not “Mom the Short Order Cook” time. Make a meal that everyone eats. Don’t give in to their begging or fussiness. You will help your kids to not be such picky eaters and appreciate what’s offered to them.
  7. Sometimes other commitments keep you from a recital or sports event. That’s OK! Don’t feel guilty. Kids need to know that although they are a priority, there are other priorities in your life as well that may not be avoided. Kids learn that they are not the center of the universe, but a spoke in the wheel that makes the family complete and turning smoothly.
  8. Both Parents Are on The Same Page. Do not let your child play you. Do not let them get an answer from one parent that they are unhappy with and go to the other parent for a different outcome. Both parents need to agree or your kids will have no reason to listen to anything either of you say.
  9. Insist on Manners & Smile. You should be using them and insist that your kids use them. There is no better way to raise respectful children, then to raise well mannered children that live in a respectful house. Do not let your kids yell at you, hit you or speak with disrespect. If children are allowed to behave that way to their parents, they will act that way with everyone they encounter. Smile when you speak and encourage your kids to smile when they speak as well.
  10. Take time with your kids for fun! Enjoy each other, play, laugh, talk, joke and make family time an enjoyable time. Take a break from the electronics and spend some time walking, conversing and looking each other in the eye instead of down at phones. Emotion can only be seen and heard in order to be felt. Keep it real.

Boundaries, responsibilities, respect and learning from the ups and downs of life, will create children that grow into well rounded, intelligent, respectful, hard working adults. Enjoy your kids, show them you love them and they will show the world how great they can be.

 

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents! Feel free to share this with anyone who has kids or just might enjoy the read.

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Catch my Parenting 101 show live on Periscope Monday thru Friday, as we discuss topics of concern and great ideas for all parents and caregivers. Is there a topic you’d like me to address, just send me an email or comment below.

Separated? Divorced? Put the Kids First!

Posted by on Jul 24, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

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Separated? Divorced? Put the Kids First!

Really? What are you doing? Are you really putting your precious kids in the middle of your problems? Let’s talk about it!

You met this human. You fell in love. You decided to commit the rest of your life to each other. You decided to bear children. You set up a happy home. All is good… until one day you realize all is not so good. Maybe this is not such a great situation. Maybe you need to rethink what’s going on here. Maybe, this is not what you thought it would be. What do you do now?

First, I always suggest you get marriage counseling or individual counseling to work on the natural problems that arise in any relationship.

grass-not-always-greenerSecond, remember that no relationship is perfect. If you spotted another possible human that you think might fit better in your life, they are not perfect either. That’s human nature. The old adage that the Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side… Is actually… The Grass is NOT always greener on the other side. New is New. When you and your spouse were in the NEW stage of your relationship, all was amazing. It seemed like nothing could ever go wrong, then, life happens. Well, if you’re considering another relationship, life will happen there too.
This is not to say that all marriages are perfect and maybe you have not found your perfect partner in your spouse, but it is to say, before you give up, make sure.

Divorce is the SINGLE HARDEST THING YOU WILL EVER GO THROUGH, and if kids are involved IT MAKES IT HARDER! So be sure that is the route you want to take.

If you have decided that Divorce is the answer, it is your decision, NOT YOUR KIDS. Your kids did not ask to be born into this relationship, you gave them that honor. So DO NOT take your misery and your relationship out on your kids. DO NOT call the other spouse names in front of your kids, or blame them for your divorce or anything going on between the two of you. What is between you and your spouse, stays between you and your spouse.

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?
Talk, discuss, nurture, be available, understand, respond, love.

TALK about what is going on and this would be great to do immediately when you know the two of you are separating. It is also good if possible, to do this together as a family, and let the kids know what to expect. Both parents should continue to talk to their kids and DISCUSS what is going on, as it continues to move in the direction of divorce. BE AVAILABLE to your kids, so that they know it is not a secret and should not feel like if they bring it up to you, you are not going to want to talk about it. Just like you, they are thinking about it all the time. They are confused, and they don’t know why it’s happening. Age-appropriate discussions will help all of you transition through this very difficult time. RESPOND to their requests and always

UNDERSTAND that this is hugely affecting their lives and the younger they are, the more confused they are. Your kids are scared and now do not feel the security they once felt when in a happy home. and do not know what the future will look like. NURTURE them and LOVE them and constantly remind them, that BOTH of their parents LOVE them and that this is NOT because of anything they did and is NOT their fault.

Work it out between the two of you, whether good or bad, regardless of the decision, be honest and truthful about the way you feel to the other. Be honest and truthful to your kids and let them know what they will expect and what the future holds for them. Show them that you both love them at all times and be available to answer questions and have discussions together on a regular basis. When done right, although it may seem impossible at times, you can ALL survive a divorce and come out the other end smiling. After all, being with two happy parents, whether living together or apart, is what’s important. That is what will give your kids the security, comfort and love that they deserve.

Have questions, email me or go to my Coaching page for one on one help with parenting. You too, can become a Parent Master.

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Be The One to SMILE!

Posted by on May 17, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

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Be the one to Smile & say HI to a complete stranger today. Be the one that says “Thank You” by name to the person helping you at the store. Be the one that encourages someone else to complete a goal. Be the one that reaches out to someone in need. Be the one that believes someone else is telling the truth, when nobody else believes them. Be the one that lets the past stay in the past, and makes the phone call that you both have been avoiding. Be the one that shares their lunch with someone who is hungry. Be the one to go the extra mile at work today. Be the one that volunteers for the job that nobody wants. Be the one that celebrates someone else for no good reason. Be the one that sends flowers to your spouse just to say “I Love You”. Be the one that turns off your phone and reads 2 books to your child. Be the one to give free advice today. Be the one to dance in the rain. Be the one to laugh out loud for no good reason other than encouraging others to laugh. Be the one that recognizes the beauty in everyone. BE THE ONE!

Speak Life!

Posted by on Apr 6, 2016 in Blog | 0 comments

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What are you saying to yourself? To your kids? SPEAK LIFE!

Encourage your kidsI AM... to finish this sentence with an uplifting thought. Pick 10 to say to yourself every morning & teach your kids to do the same.

Say it and believe it. The more you say it, the more you will empower yourself and believe it!

I AM Beautiful. I AM Intelligent. I AM Financially Successful. I AM Creative. I AM Happy. I AM Fun to be with. I AM a Kind Person. I AM a Hard Worker. I AM a Great Student. I AM a Good Helper. I AM Not Afraid. I AM…

What will  you end these 2 words with? What will your kids end them with? Start Today, sit down with your kids and think of as many as you can. Lose the loser thoughts and start impacting your brain with empowering thoughts. Let me know how it goes? You will be amazed what can be accomplished. Energize Your Life!

Wanna SLAM it down? Join me Monday-Friday on Periscope at 8:30AM EST to Proclaim It & Claim It. Have the kids join you too. Get ready to set your mind on fire!!!

If this post was helpful to you, comment below and let’s help some more parents & kids! Feel free to share this with anyone who just had a new baby or just might enjoy the post or on your social media sites!

Peace, Love & Laughter!

celia kibler

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Let’s raise happy and healthy kids together!

Catch my Parent Master show live on Periscope Monday thru Friday, as we discuss topics of concern and great ideas for all parents and caregivers. Is there a topic you’d like me to address, just send me an email or comment below.

 

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